I just want to put it out there. For anyone who thinks it is nothing but a fairytale. And sure, it is a hormonal thing. And there is a beautiful piece of neurological science. And yes, sure it needs to be requited. But that doesn't make it any less true:
True love, has no boundaries.
When you want something really badly, you will almost always succeed. And if you have an accomplice that wants the same things as you. You can achieve practically anything. The secret behind it all is that people that know this little secret, and realise it, are very successful in life. For they discover, just really how simple life can be. Even when you end up alone.
So yes, maybe you need to go to extremes. Move to another country by surprise. Have perceveirance, and do things you normally would think you could never do that. Even if your heart becomes broken. At least you will live a life that has little boundaries. And trust me eventually this will make you happy anyhow. Dare to dream and love, and do crazy stupid things*.
*excluding incurable diseases, murder, babies and stuff like genocide and war.
I'm clearly no expert on relationships, but I do observe a lot. I'm just putting my thoughts here.
BeantwoordenVerwijderenI think people tend to think of love as magic. It surely is magical, but not magic itself. Love is just love and it is beautiful. But it doesn't exist simply on it's own, which is why it is so hard to define. It exists with variables - people. I don't think there' real or fake love. It either is there or it is not. But how it displays itself depends on people.
I'm drifting away now. Coming back. I think this is why a lot of relationships with broken people don't work. One thinks that love will magically heal their partner and they will live happily ever after. That if both give it their all, things will be alright. Sometimes, that just doesn't happen and people believe that their partner isn't trying enough, rather than see that love has no rule over these things.
Gosh! I could write a TV series with this.
All I want to say is, that love is wonderful, but it not a superpower. Maybe when you really want something you will always suceed. But probably not when it's detailed and thought through.
But may you never have troubles in love. :)
Yes I believe you made an accurate observation. Most people see 'love' as some magical solution to all their problems. Naturally it isn't and most of this 'love' is just limerence.
BeantwoordenVerwijderenIf you want to really love someone, you first of all have to love yourself. That is important and without it mutual love is impossible. You need to accept and understand who you are. And then you may choose to unselfishly love someone else. Still that is a choice. But it can be a great choice!